Most wedding-goers anticipate hearing speeches from the maid of honor and best man, and we have previously discussed ways to knock these speeches out of the park. So what about a thank you speech from the bride and groom? While not a "must" on the list of wedding day activities, it is an increasingly growing sentiment. Many wedding professionals even encourage their couples to give a short and sweet speech to set the tone at their reception and just show their gratitude.
Is it wrong to not participate in a thank-you speech? Not at all. Will your guests be appreciative that you took the time to address them? Well, wouldn't you if you were sitting in their perfectly chosen chiavari chairs, tucked nicely underneath those eggplant and royal gold linens?
The thing this, people attend weddings because they love the people getting married and want to share in their merriment, but it often does take some time, effort, money, and time in order to do that. A small "thank you" goes a long way.
So, maybe you're considering giving a speech but aren't sure where to start. For starters, it shouldn't be an overwhelming thing to put together, full of flowery words, expert jokes, and 30 notecards. While preparation is preferred, a heartfelt 3 or 4 sentences will do the trick.
Starting with a light joke or pun is often appreciated, one that everyone will find tasteful and easy to understand (steer clear of inside jokes or innuendos. That's just considered tacky). After you warm them up with your wonderful sense of humor, take just a minute to highlight those very key people who made your day possible, say, your parents and your bridal party, but this is not the time to list many people and achievements. It is your wedding after all, not the Grammys.
Depending on if one or both of you are going to speak, you may also want to thank your BRAND NEW spouse for being there through the wedding planning process and making your wedding special. This is another great opportunity to make your guests aww and chuckle.
If there are any special things you want your guests to know ("we can't wait to see you at the sparkler send off," or "make sure you try some of great-grandma Edna's peach cobbler"), you can mention that here. Wrap it up with another notion of gratitude and you're done! Sounds pretty easy, huh?
Here's an example:
Betty and I wanted to take a moment to thank each and every one of you for celebrating with us with today. We know you must really love us if you decided to be here over your living room watching the Patriots play. Don't worry, we DVRd it if anyone wants to come over and catch the highlights next week.
Today would not have been possible, or nearly as seamless, without some very key people. To our parents, thank you for your love, support, and example. To our friends and family who helped with showers, celebrations, and wedding plans, you are the best. To everyone who traveled near and wide to be here with us, we love you all.
We are grateful to be surrounded by many successful marriages in our daily lives and we hope as we embark on this new journey and join this exclusive club, you will offer your best advice and encouragement. We hope entry into this club comes without any crazy initiation rituals, though!
Today, we are just happy to have the most special people in our lives in one place with us. Enjoy the rest of the evening with dancing, great food, and you won't want to miss out on our Armadillo grooms cake!
Thank you again. It means so much to both of us that you all are here.
What do you think of the thank-you speech? Would you be open to giving one at your reception?
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