You’re itching in your seat post-wedding cake, just waiting for the perfect song to come on so you can get your groove on. Do you trust the bride and groom to have chosen great music? Do you recognize the DJ as a professional who wouldn’t lead the playlist astray? Or do you take matters into your own hands and march up to the deck and make a request for your favorite song of the moment?
While there may not be an Emily Post article on the subject, there are many opinions circulating the topic of whether or not it is okay to request songs at a wedding reception. After all, the party is all about the dancing guests, right? Well… not so fast. The DJ’s job is to keep the bride and groom happy by giving them exactly what they discussed and planned. It can then be up to the bride and groom whether or not to take requests from their guests.
So what are some general rules of thumb when it comes to song requests at weddings? Well, as the bride and groom, you can always…
In our previous post, we discussed that one great way to get guests out of their seats is to have them provide a song they would like to hear at the reception. This can be done on your wedding website, RSVP card, or even before the ceremony (to give the DJ enough time to fit the last minute requests in the playlist). This may also be the perfect compromise to allowing your guests to hover around the DJ, waiting to be acknowledged between the toasts and the garter toss.
However, if you are a guest, and the DJ has the go-ahead to consider guest requests, your rules of thumb are as follows:
Don’t ask to see a list of songs.
With today’s technology and a thousand ways to organize songs and playlists, this is just nearly impossible. Also, this is a wedding, not your neighborhood karaoke bar. #aintnobodygottimeforthat
Don’t be the 10th person in the last half-hour to request Journey, Iggy Azalea, or Madonna.
Chances are, if the happy couple wanted to hear it, it’s already on the playlist. Be original. Be creative. Request something a wee bit out of the box.
DJs will (most likely) work for compliments and beverages.
But seriously, doesn’t this apply to just about everyone?
A lot of Benjamins go into the spread you see the DJ working behind and I think I speak for DJs everywhere when I say we would prefer not trying to revive any of our equipment from the epic beer-spill shenanigans of so-and-so’s special day.
When you hear your requested song, please get on the dance floor and show the rest of them how it’s done!
To see a list of the top 100 requested songs at weddings, click here. For a list of songs most self-respecting DJs will never play no matter how much you beg, click here.
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