Welcome to part 3 of the Becoming a Bridesman blog series! If you haven't already, check out parts one and two.
Once Ramsey got his feet wet with the ways of a bridal party through the bachelorette party and bridal shower, next item on the agenda was, as Ramsey calls it, the bridesmaids lunch-in.
"I was expected to be fed again, but I was mistaken, again. I mean, why call it a lunch-in if there aren't going to be burgers and wings?"
The bridesmaids LUNCHEON was held at the beautiful Lee House in downtown Pensacola and was a way for Sara, the bride and wedding planner extraordinaire, to give back and say "thank you" to her bridal party.
Ramsey was just hoping to be thanked with some red meat and anything fried.
"Sara came up to me and say, 'you're hungry aren't you' and I said, 'yeah.' She told me to get full on champagne."
Ramsey said the ongoing bridal party group text message told him what to wear, pink, but he didn't have anything that fit the bill so he went with the closest thing he could find: red. When he arrived at the Lee House, he again felt like he was being let in on a secret that has been long kept from all male kind.
The table was laid out for each guest and Sara had a custom wooden name for everyone made in England.
"When I first sat down, I thought it was a cookie," said Ramsey. "It was made out of wood so I couldn't eat it, but it was still very cool and very thoughtful. That's just who Sara is- thoughtful and in the details."
"With everything wedding related, I was constantly trying to figure out what I was supposed to wear and what I was, and was not, allowed to eat. Guys eat lunch. I don't think girls do."
After the beautiful hores d'oeovres, Ramsey noticed a table full of gifts, all in floral, "frilly" gift bags. He stood back and watched the other bridesmaids open their gift, again noting Sara's thoughtfulness and personalization towards her friends. Ramsey wasn't expecting a gift, he learned earlier not to expect anything from these events but to just take them as they came, but prepared his mind for the moment when he opened a frilly bag that was to have his name on it.
"Little did I know, underneath the table was a duffle bag with my name on it. I was shocked! It had a few of my favorite things in it: Johnny Walker Black, Sharpies because Sara used to throw them at my head when we shared an office, a hangover kit. Sara really got me and knew that I was a bridesMAN. The gift blew my mind."
"Throughout this season of Sara's wedding festivities, I knew that I was a man in a girl's world. I was okay with that, I was excited for it. I mean, I got to hang out with some of favorite ladies and celebrate my best friend and her journey to love and happiness. I never expected any special treatment but Sara always found ways to add a touch of masculinity in there for me and that made it so special," said Ramsey.
With the bridesmaid luncheon complete, the events are coming to a close but the main attraction is just around the corner.
Get ready for part 4 of the Becoming a Bridesman blog series when we discuss all things rehearsal dinner and when Ramsey really freaked out one of the groomsmen.
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