AnyDayDJ has seen our fair share of weddings over the years, each one unique and bringing something special to the table. There have been so many new and different wedding trends that we couldn’t possibly keep track of them all!
One trend that we can’t get enough of and hope it never fades is welcoming your favorite people of all time into your bridal party, regardless of their age or gender (did you see this epic bridal party with the bride’s grandma? Priceless!).
We could be a little bit biased about this one, though.
AnyDayDj owner and the resident testosterone of the Wes, Ramsey Coates, was asked by one of his best friends and co-founder of the Wes, Sara Gillianne, to be her bridesman of honor in her March 12 black-tie wedding in Pensacola, Florida.
He of course immediately exclaimed, “YES!” then after a second of thought said, “what’s that?”
Ramsey is a self-proclaimed sports-watching, burger-eating, beer-drinking, soccer-playing man’s man. So while he was enthusiastic about his “sister’s” request, he also had no idea what he was getting himself into.
Over the next few weeks, we will be outlining the ins and outs of what it is like to be a man in a woman’s bridal party, straight from the mouth of a man who has been in the trenches and lived to see it through, testosterone (mostly) still in tact.
Ramsey at first believed that to be a man of honor just meant standing in a tux on the other side of the sanctuary that he normally would if one of his guy friends got married. How hard could that be? When men act as groomsmen and men of honor, they have a night on the town, drink whiskey, buy each other bottles of whiskey, take a shot of whiskey while getting dressed 20 minutes before they’re beckoned to the photo spot, with a few rounds of golf sprinkled in somewhere.
Being on the bride’s side of the altar is nothing like that.
The Bachelorette Party
The first agenda item was the bachelorette party. Everyone gathered on Pensacola Beach for a classy night of champagne and dancing in this slice of paradise. Ramsey was excited to get the wedding festivities started and celebrate with not only his best friend Sara, but also a group of girls that he has grown to know and love over many years.
While the girls stayed together at a beach condo, Ramsey met them for dinner at the Grand Marlin. While not in the bridal party, Sara also included Ramsey’s wife and her friend, Melissa, in all the bridal party activities.
“It was euphoric. That’s the only way I know how to describe the whole night. Being around Sara and these girls, knowing why we are celebrating and what it took for her to get to this time of love and happiness in her life, it was euphoric.”
It didn’t take long at Grand Marlin for the group to start popping bottles of champagne. Everyone felt the love as the wedding celebration took off and they really could not have asked for a better group.
“One sour person in a bridal part can ruin everything but there wasn’t one. Everyone was fun to be around and we shared a strong bond- loving Sara.”
As they wrapped things up at Grand Marlin, Ramsey thought it was his time to bow out and head home. The girls, however, had different plans. Eight bodies crammed in one tiny car to head to downtown Pensacola and party at Blend Lounge.
“I turned into the mother hen of the group,” says Ramsey. “Being the one guy around all these beautiful, and mostly married, women, I became very protective. Let us just have a good time and find a good spot to dance in; we don’t need any other shenanigans.”
After Blend, it was time for the gals to head back to their beach condo and Ramsey head home. He says this was the part that always sucked.
“I’m married, they’re married. I’m protective of them and also never wanted there to be anything that looked inappropriate or made someone uncomfortable. So I met them everywhere but didn’t get to spend all that extra time with them. It was a theme with every event and I felt like I missed out on a lot.”
What were the girls doing that Ramsey wanted to be a part of?
“Believe you me, I wanted to stay the night and watch Steel Magnolias and paint everyone’s toenails. I really did! It just made sense for me to go home, though.”
So while the girls of the bridal party were undoubtedly up all night watching chick flicks, swapping boy stories, and giving pedicures, Ramsey and Melissa went home and geared up for the next item on the agenda… the bridal shower.
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