Ramsey’s insight into all things weddings from the perspective of a Bridesman of Honor concludes today! Find out how it all came to a glorious close in the final blog of the Becoming a Bridesman series. If you haven’t read the previous blogs in the series, click here to start at the beginning.
The bridal party all had plans to have breakfast on wedding day morning; however, those plans had been made before they all spent most of the previous evening at Casino Beach Bar after the rehearsal dinner. Ramsey was to meet the rest of Sara’s bridal party for breakfast at 6 a.m. at the Maragaritaville Hotel on Pensacola Beach.
“That did not happen for me,” says Ramsey. “Sleep, that’s what happened for me. I didn’t make it to breakfast.”
The girls seemed to have recuperated just fine from the night before and were up and doing “all that girly stuff” while Ramsey decided it was better for him to sit out on breakfast.
“They had on those bridesmaids thingies… what do you call them? Robes, right? So I would have had to sit out of the room and wait anyway. Perryn and Leia were calling me over and over again because they did want me out there. That was really nice- even though I still needed my sleep!”
Ramsey recognized what a long day the wedding day can be from the other side of things- not DJing or being a laidback groomsmen. He sees now that girls go through a lot on wedding day to ensure it’s all perfect.
“It’s a long day with the getting up, getting dressed, pictures, emotions…. Emotions, more pictures, eating, drinking.”
Ramsey got to Margaritaville just in time for bridal party pictures. Sara had asked Ramsey’s twins, 15-year-old Ramsey and Savannah, to be a part of the wedding day by passing out programs, so she wanted Ramsey’s family at Margaritaville that morning for pictures, as well. The kids, who lovingly call her “Aunt Sara,” were excited to be a part of such a momentous day.
Sara was already dressed when Ramsey arrived. As soon as he walked in, the bridal party was coming out of the elevator. Good timing.
“Sara looked so happy. She was already in her dress and all smiles, which lasted all day. She was the perfect bride. We laughed, we hugged, everyone was excited. Such a perfect start to a great day.”
Aislinn Kate captured the festivites. After photos, the bridal party jumped in a car and headed to First United Methodist Church in downtown Pensacola. There, Ramsey said they did a lot of sitting.
“I didn’t realize there was so much sitting before the wedding. I used this time to catch up with the bridesmaids since I didn’t have breakfast with them. Sara was calm and chillin. I didn’t expect that down time but it was nice.”
After a while of “lounging” before the ceremony, a funny thing happened. Ramsey saw that Leia, the lady of honor, was writing notes.
“I saw that Leia was taking notes for her reception speech, and at first I was thinking I do this all time, I can wing it. But then, I got nervous because this is my sister, Sara. I realized I should write some notes down so I don’t stand up there and lose my thoughts and give a stupid speech.”
After that, everyone gathered in the vestibule to prepare for the ceremony, everyone hugging and sharing a sweet moment with the bride, before walking down the aisle. When they got to the altar, Ramsey said there was one part they did not go over at the rehearsal.
“Sara handed her flowers to Leia, and then Leia handed her flowers to me- I was not ready for that! She tried to hand them to me, and I’m thinking, get those things away from me! I’m not holding those! But Leia had to hold Sara’s so I got stuck holding flowers for the whole ceremony.”
Ramsey was prepared for an emotional ceremony, and he felt so proud to stand up there to support his best friend.
When the couple said, “I do” Ramsey finally was able to hand the flowers back to Leia. When the bridal party began to walk out, Ramsey was partnered with Damien’s cousin.
“I already knew that everyone was going to be wondering what we would do. We just walked up to each other, high-fived, and walked out with our arms around each other. It was a good time.”
When the bridal party arrived at Pensacola Country Club, Ramsey said it looked like a movie, unlike any wedding he had ever seen. The bridal party was able to enjoy cocktail hour before Ramsey had the honor of announcing the new husband and wife.
“I gave the best announcement I probably ever have. I was nervous but so excited.”
After dinner and desert, it was time for speeches. Ramsey said he wasn’t emotional until it was his turn and then…
“It just hit me. It was like a kick to the stomach and all of a sudden I was crying. I wanted to give a proper, honest toast to Sara and Damien. I don’t cry- unless it’s a Disney movie- but thinking about everything that the wedding day meant and stood for, I just couldn’t keep it in.”
After the speeches, the dancing commenced. With a wedding party full of wedding professionals, Sara had it planned out perfectly so that everyone could just enjoy the reception without feeling like they had to step in and work.
When the night was over, the bridal party had high hopes of continuing the party.
“Back at the hotel, we talked for a little bit, started to hang out and then we all passed out, while we were talking. We were just so tired after such a good, but long, day.”
After all of the excitement, events, and previously unknown world of the bridal party, Ramsey said he would do it all over again.
“It was a huge honor and I loved every second of it. I’m so glad that Sara and Damien found each other and I was able to be a part of their wedding.”
Ramsey says he hopes the bridesman trend will gain some traction. “In 2016, all of those preconceived notions should be out the window. It’s time to be there for your friends and enjoy the ride, no matter how that may look.”
Ramsey had some advice for any other men who may be asked to be in their best girl friend’s wedding party, “Don’t be too macho and attend all the events. As for the bridal lunch-in and showers… just remember to eat before you go.”
With that expert advice, Ramsey has dropped the mic.
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