Welcome to part 2 of the Becoming a Bridesman of Honor! If you haven’t read part 1 yet, you can find it here.
After Ramsey was initiated into the bridal party at the bachelorette party, the next order of business was the bridal shower that same weekend. The bridal shower was held at The Wes on Sunday afternoon and looking back, Ramsey has one major piece of advice to any other bridesmen out there: be sure to eat before you go.
“I didn’t know what to expect but I was thinking there would be food. I mean, when guys get together, we eat. I’m down with sweets but as a guy, we’re like boom- here’s a burger. At a bridal shower, there are flowers and there are cookies. Okay, and cucumber sandwiches but I don’t even know what that is! It tastes like air.”
Besides champagne, Ramsey was impressed with the goodies from Emerald Coast Custom Cakes… although, he didn’t know the Florida-shaped key lime shortbread cookies were edible.
“I drank champagne, gabbed with the ladies, and met all the family. Being a bridesman who works in the wedding industry, I am used to being talkative in awkward situations. I’ve known most of the girls there for so long, no conversation topic is off limits.”
Except of course, when the girls started discussing their dress alterations and wedding day hair ideas. This was when the bridesman of honor just nodded his head and took another sip of champagne.
When it was time for bride Sara to open gifts, Ramsey was just glad his friend was happy, but didn’t quite understand the level of excitement that grew with each gift that was opened.
“I just kept paying attention to the room and hearing all these girls squeal, ‘yay! Towels!’ and I’m thinking, why yay? It’s a fancy piece of fabric to dry off with. Women just get excited about that stuff. More towels? Awesome…I still don’t get it.”
Ramsey’s fellow bridesmaids would often have to explain another girly tradition or sentiment with him. He was grateful for the insight and to be in this new setting that was so foreign to his kind. He says he got a lesson on what girls really talk about when most men aren’t around. He said it made him a little lonely at times, but we was still happy to be around his favorite ladies.
“What’s that saying? Sugar and spice and everything nice; snips and snails and puppy dog’s tails… I was definitely the latter part of that.”
While Ramsey had no preconceived notions about the bridal shower and even what that might entail, he left the Wes that Sunday afternoon feeling like he had been let in on a little secret kept by women everywhere. While he still isn’t ready to jump on the cucumber sandwich train, Ramsey was grateful to celebrate with his sister friend, Sara.
“What Sara is excited about, I am excited about.”
Get ready for part 3 of the Becoming a Bridesman blog series when we explore Ramsey’s experience at the “bridal lunch-in.”
AnyDayDJ has seen our fair share of weddings over the years, each one unique and bringing something special to the table. There have been so many new and different wedding trends that we couldn’t possibly keep track of them all!
One trend that we can’t get enough of and hope it never fades is welcoming your favorite people of all time into your bridal party, regardless of their age or gender (did you see this epic bridal party with the bride’s grandma? Priceless!).
We could be a little bit biased about this one, though.
AnyDayDj owner and the resident testosterone of the Wes, Ramsey Coates, was asked by one of his best friends and co-founder of the Wes, Sara Gillianne, to be her bridesman of honor in her March 12 black-tie wedding in Pensacola, Florida.
He of course immediately exclaimed, “YES!” then after a second of thought said, “what’s that?”
Ramsey is a self-proclaimed sports-watching, burger-eating, beer-drinking, soccer-playing man’s man. So while he was enthusiastic about his “sister’s” request, he also had no idea what he was getting himself into.
Over the next few weeks, we will be outlining the ins and outs of what it is like to be a man in a woman’s bridal party, straight from the mouth of a man who has been in the trenches and lived to see it through, testosterone (mostly) still in tact.
Ramsey at first believed that to be a man of honor just meant standing in a tux on the other side of the sanctuary that he normally would if one of his guy friends got married. How hard could that be? When men act as groomsmen and men of honor, they have a night on the town, drink whiskey, buy each other bottles of whiskey, take a shot of whiskey while getting dressed 20 minutes before they’re beckoned to the photo spot, with a few rounds of golf sprinkled in somewhere.
Being on the bride’s side of the altar is nothing like that.
The Bachelorette Party
The first agenda item was the bachelorette party. Everyone gathered on Pensacola Beach for a classy night of champagne and dancing in this slice of paradise. Ramsey was excited to get the wedding festivities started and celebrate with not only his best friend Sara, but also a group of girls that he has grown to know and love over many years.
While the girls stayed together at a beach condo, Ramsey met them for dinner at the Grand Marlin. While not in the bridal party, Sara also included Ramsey’s wife and her friend, Melissa, in all the bridal party activities.
“It was euphoric. That’s the only way I know how to describe the whole night. Being around Sara and these girls, knowing why we are celebrating and what it took for her to get to this time of love and happiness in her life, it was euphoric.”
It didn’t take long at Grand Marlin for the group to start popping bottles of champagne. Everyone felt the love as the wedding celebration took off and they really could not have asked for a better group.
“One sour person in a bridal part can ruin everything but there wasn’t one. Everyone was fun to be around and we shared a strong bond- loving Sara.”
As they wrapped things up at Grand Marlin, Ramsey thought it was his time to bow out and head home. The girls, however, had different plans. Eight bodies crammed in one tiny car to head to downtown Pensacola and party at Blend Lounge.
“I turned into the mother hen of the group,” says Ramsey. “Being the one guy around all these beautiful, and mostly married, women, I became very protective. Let us just have a good time and find a good spot to dance in; we don’t need any other shenanigans.”
After Blend, it was time for the gals to head back to their beach condo and Ramsey head home. He says this was the part that always sucked.
“I’m married, they’re married. I’m protective of them and also never wanted there to be anything that looked inappropriate or made someone uncomfortable. So I met them everywhere but didn’t get to spend all that extra time with them. It was a theme with every event and I felt like I missed out on a lot.”
What were the girls doing that Ramsey wanted to be a part of?
“Believe you me, I wanted to stay the night and watch Steel Magnolias and paint everyone’s toenails. I really did! It just made sense for me to go home, though.”
So while the girls of the bridal party were undoubtedly up all night watching chick flicks, swapping boy stories, and giving pedicures, Ramsey and Melissa went home and geared up for the next item on the agenda… the bridal shower.
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It's April which means we are officially standing at the precipice of wedding season! Along with May flowers and abundant sunshine, this makes for our favorite time of the year. Spring weddings are a welcomed milestone of the year as they renew our sense of love, excitement, and celebration.
If you are sharing vows this season, there are so many ways to ensure a beautiful wedding day. Our favorite, of course, is the music. Here are a few of our favorite new songs, a little something for everyone, to include at any point in your wedding day to express all the gushy feelings you are bound to feel on your big day. We hope we are the ones who get to play them for you!
1. Dan+Shay///From the Ground Up
Just try to get through watching this music video without misty eyes. We love this song for his sweet lyrics and promise it makes that could easily be adopted for any couple. Just imagine the possibilities it has for your wedding day!
2. Only One///Kanye West ft. Paul McCartney
Who isn't a sucker for a good collaboration? This is no exception. If your new spouse is your only chosen one, this song could be for you.
3. Hold my Hand///Jess Glynne
Upbeat tempo, catchy lyrics, ultra danceable... what more could you ask for!? We can already picture your friends and family (yes, even great aunt Ethel) getting down to this one at your reception.
4. Heartbeat///Carrie Underwood
When you're surrounded by crowds but all you can focus on each other and the love you share... that's what this song, and your wedding day, are all about.
5. Stand by You///Rachel Platten
Another great dancing number, this one is full of romance and vows in an unsuspecting tempo. Feel free to fist pump and jump to this one. We will probably join you.
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